Challenge a Perception
Your perception of something or someone is the way that you think about it or the impression you have of it. If you challenge a perception, ideas or people, you question their truth, value or authority.
I was alway taught that family will always be there for you and you for them. Through good and bad times, happy and sad times you can always count on family. When I was growing up my perception of family was love and caring.
But what happens when you see the other side of a family and you begin to challenge your thoughts? What happens when parents think only of themselves and not their own children? What happens when parental abuse enters the picture? When that happens the children are confused and hurt both physically and emotionally. It’s times like this when other loving family members will always be there for those who have been forgotten by their own parents.
I learned that there are givers and there are takers. Givers will give their shirt of their back to help while takers just keep taking. I learned that one way to stop the takers is to stop giving every time they hold their hand out. But I also learned that once that happens the takers disappear because they know they can’t get anything out of a dry creek bed. They have no value, they have no love for their own family and of course they blame others for all their insecurities.
I have also realized that friends can be loving, caring and more like family than your own. Blood does not make a family, love and caring does.
It’s very sad when families are “broken” but there is so much love from others, both family and friends that can help pick up the pieces with the children. They will never be able to forget the past but the present will be full of love so they can rebuild happy memories in the future.
Do you ever challenge a perception of something or someone you have an impression of?
Given today’s political climate, perception and expectations are always at loggerheads.
Yes they are Roy that’s why I wanted to stay away from them.
Martha, I learn this early in life. Family can be anyone who really cares and is there.
You are so right Brenda and I am honored to have you as a very special friend. You are more family than some of our blood family! Hugs and love to you.
Martha, those are great points! I especially agree that we can choose and/or create our own families if the one we were born into turns out to be dysfunctional or abusive (as mine was, growing up). Friends can be family, too.
I so agree with you Jeanine. I was blessed to have wonderful parents but somewhere down the line of generations family changed. It’s heartbreaking to see family that you raised become dysfunctional but I’m so glad we are here for our grandchildren.
So true that love and caring is what makes family.. While I am certainly lucky to have family that is loving and caring, I am doubly lucky to have friends who I can count as family too…
It’s sad when a family falls apart but I’m so glad Rich and I were there to pick up the pieces Vidya. Our grandchildren and great grands are our world.
Charlie is seeing this up close and personal were my Nice is concerned and the sad thing is Payton’s mom was treated like this as a child and is now doing it to her two daughters. Which makes me even more grateful for my mother and father in law who are helping more and more with Dixie and Payton. As well as David and Charlie who have stepped up to take the place of there mom. As a Aunt I can only do so much before Alex says I am not family and can’t do anything. This makes me want to walk away but the girls need me and so does David’s mom and dad so I try and shrug it off and not let it hurt me. Because I married David that does make me family even if you don’t like it.
Awww it so sad when families are like this. Alex was about 11 or 12 and she told me if she ever has children she knows how not to treat them. I think that’s why Lia is so loved, so there isn’t any sadness in her life. Give a hug to Charlie from Lia and me Glenda.
Great post.
Thanks Amanda, sometimes familes don’t turn out like they should. Be we are always here to pick up the pieces.